Girl Talk

Today's post is inspired by recent events. My roommates and I got to talking about things that some of our friends who are girls have done to us, which make them kind of not worthy of the title "friend." So this is a post about Girl Code. Those unwritten rules that will make a friendship between girls be treasured and enjoyed.

1. Be a good friend, even when it's not convenient for you.

If you're friends with someone, don't just call them when you need something. Take time to build the relationship.  Remember Oprah Winfrey's wise words:

"Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down."

I think that's the true meaning of friendship. 

2. If your girlfriend tells you that she likes a guy and introduces you to him, DO NOT FLIRT WITH HIM. She already called dibs and it is your duty as a friend to make the guy see how incredibly amazing your girlfriend really is. If they don't end up together, at least it wasn't your fault. 

It's not ok to flirt/spend an excessive amount of time with your girlfriend's guy/boyfriend/ and especially, husband! If she tells you she likes him, he's off limits. If they're married, he's definitely off limits. Don't give him pet names. Be a friend! 

Now an etiquette rule:

3. If he broke up with you, he is freeeeee. It doesn't matter if it was yesterday, (ok, give yourself at least a week of mourning period.. sometimes, it's ok if it turns into a month) if he broke up with you or you broke up with him, the relationship is over. He was part of your life. Emphasis on the WAS. Move on, girl. Did you not hear Destiny's Child when you were little?

I'm wishin' you the best 

Pray that you are blessed 

Bring much success, no stress, and lots of happiness 

I'm not goin' blast you on the radio 

I'm not goin' lie on you and your family 

I'm not goin' hate on you in the magazines 

I'm not goin' compromise my Christianity 

You know I'm not goin' diss you on the internet 

'Cause my mama taught me better than that 

 Yeah, some guys can be heartless, but then again, so can a lot of girls. Some break ups can take longer to get over than others. But we all deal with heartbreak in a different way.  Take time to take care of yourself. Know that other girls will like him and date him. It's okkkk. It sucks a little at first, but it will be ok. 

4. If you have to borrow money, pay back in a timely fashion. Being friends doesn't give you unlimited access to their wallet. And even if they say it's ok, make sure that you tell them you will pay them back. And keep your promise. 

Debts under $10 are ok to pay within the week or even two weeks. Any more than that, and you have to realize that your friend spend a considerable amount (come on, we're in college here, $5 bucks can make a difference) on you and you should pay her back ASAP. Within a couple of days if possible.

 At the same time, help your girlfriend out. If she forgot her wallet, it's ok to pay for her now and then. 

5. Be nice. We can all drive each other crazy sometimes, but, as my mom said, we were put on this earth to learn from each other and try to perfect ourselves. We know we're not perfect. We know we'll have our weak moments, and our angry moments, and our teary moments together. But it's always easier to go through these moments when we know we have a friend by our side. 

Let's build each other up, instead of tearing one another down, yeah? We'll be so much happier because of it. 

It came at the right time

I called home Sunday night, and I was in for a surprise. 

The first thing my mom said was, "Did someone tell you the latest yet?" 

She proceeded to tell me that that Sunday, my friend, Kara Strebel, had given her farewell talk in Church. She went in to the MTC yesterday, to go serve a mission for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints in the Philippines. Apparently, during her talk, she talked about me and how certain things that I had said when we used to hang out in high school made her want to improve her family relationships, specifically with her sister. 

Earlier that day, my sister had sent me a somewhat teary (I could tell!) text about how she was so happy that we had chosen each other in the premortal life to be sisters upon this earth. I was kinda confused by her text, but now I understand why. 

I never thought that something that I did in high school would ever come back to me. I always thought that my change upon the world would come from becoming a doctor, or serving a mission, or you know, something big... I don't mean to say that I think I changed the world with my attitude. But Kara's words about me and about how my attitude made her want to change her attitude came at just the right time. She made me see myself in a new light. 

I think that during our teenage years we think that our actions are our own and that they don't affect anybody else. Of course, the more we grow up, the more we realize that this way of thinking is completely flawed. Everything we do affects somebody. Kara reminded me of that. 

Her words especially touched me because, even though Kara and I went through our good friends phase, I lost contact with her after high school. Which is normal, right? The people that come with you to college are the ones that you keep in contact with the most. It was always good to see her during vacations and I would occasionally see one of her posts on Facebook, but I never thought that my attitude about my relationship with my sister during high school would have an impact upon anybody besides myself. 

Today, I am grateful to Kara for reminding me that what I do matters. 

Somebody is always watching. 

And I don't mean that in a creepy way. 

Our actions today can have an impact upon people, even if we don't know it. 

And I am also grateful to my sister. For being the type of example for me to follow. I know that we chose each other!!! haha, nobody else would have put up with me in the ways she does.